Softer is better!

Proverbs 15:1 A soft answer turns away wrath: but harsh words stir up anger.

People who fight fire with fire usually end up with ashes.

How often, in all the issues we have to deal with talking with people, we know or we feel we are right; our idea, our position, our interpretation is it, and we’re ready to fight for it. Forget the fact that we may not be, or that there might be something we’re completely ignorant of. The truth is that sometimes we know better, and sometimes we don’t.

But the scripture teaches us, and I’ve learned from experience (most of the time), that arguing, forcefulness, and violence in my own voice are almost guaranteed to start a futile and ugly war of words. People are naturally defensive, and often, naturally offensive. But I can be the one to break the pattern…with a gentle answer.

If my heart attitude is “Come, let us reason together, hear each other out, respect each other, speak softly, and trust the Lord for the outcome”, and my tone of voice carries that spirit, I can actually help the other person to calm down and prevent a war. The fruit of the spirit is….. self-control. What a blessing! Do you want to start a fight…..or finish one? Give a gentle answer today and see what the Lord does!

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